I was in the same boat, can't ever find anything that looks good on tungsten. I love the color but man it does suck trying to find accessories that look good w/ it -- grilles, wheels, spoilers, you name it. I ended up getting a 3 piece overlay and despite what you'd think it doesn't look cheesy at all. Classes it up a little IMHO, but it's a matter of personal taste. I don't think ones like mine stick out as far as the ones that're the pony delete, which might look a little weird to some people.
These are the best pics I can dig up for how it looks in person. 95% of the time you never even realize there's a honeycomb grille behind it. It's usually only when the sun is shining right into the front of the car is when you can see it