ok so today, was letting it idle to see if it failed, first started it with the possible bad relay and it died. swapped it once it died with a good relay, it fired up, so i swapped the bad relay back in and it fired up.... so i waited for it to die again swapped them again.
i may or may not have possible lost track of the bad relay as i put what i thought was a good relay in it from the high beams and it deid again. so i took the two that i kept swapping back and forth and put them in the high beam and fog light spot and have the foglight relay in the fuel pump slot.
so i'm waiting to try this later today and see if it fails. i don't think the relays are bad at this point but in the slight of chance that i mixed them up i'm going to try one last time. if it still dies i have no idea where to go from there. i'll check the spark plugs and see about a possible loading issue but i really don't think thats it.
also there is no engine code and no rapid blinking cel light. the cel comes on but goes away once started just like if you had it in the key on position.
looks like i really might possibly be racing back to square one again.
should the bec wiggle at all? i checked the three bolts going through the top of it and they're nice a snug but it still has a little wiggle room.