I agree with the first part of your statement, but you will not find a fluid that will not be notchy in the cold atleast and offer the correct viscosity when the trans is up to temp. If you cant live with the cold notchyness, then you will have to live with a whining trans. No manual trans, with the correct viscosity fluid in it will be butter smooth in cold weather until its up to operating temp PERIOD. There is no magic fluid that will do this. And I hope you understand that if you put a lighter weight fluid in that will shift smooth cold, then you will be compromising the full operating temp performance of the trans with fluid that is too thin. Thats where the extra noise and damage will start. This is really not rocket science. Just baby the car for like 10 minutes max, and it will be ready to rock after that. Not to mention, you will always have the notch feeling between gears when you are driving around normal. That is normal operation. You should not be able to shift super fast when you are just putting around town. Thats not how the trans works.