That's a made up diagram by internet guy x. that said, I know that I'm reversing the loads on the diff housing which could theoretically bend it when I lift by the pumpkin, but I ignore this because I simply can't do anything else and if it fucks up I'll just deal with it.
The lifts they use at Ford shops lift by the pinch welds. You should go watch them hammer cars up into the air. Kick the lifting pad somewhere close to in front of the wheel, have a look at all 4 corners, get the car up in the air. I believe the pads are fairly large and have a rubber pad with a square pattern for larger surface area. Time is money in a shop.
When I'm lifting with my chinese jack it has a round bucket with no rubber pad, I run it so that two arc lengths of the bucket edge contact the pinch weld area as I lift. Never an issue. Again, the jack stands are contacting on maybe 1/8", never an issue. The material may deform slightly (It will deform if the material is stressed beyond its yield, but as the material yields you quickly get to a point where the surface area enlarges and the stress drops!) you might lose some paint, but nothing that you'll ever see unless you're rolling around examining it with a drop light, and life is too short to give a crap about that sort of minor thing.