Okay, maybe I can help...
The whole concept with the sta-bar and the endlinks is to have them effectively doing NOTHING when the car is just sitting, at static ride height. If you do anything to load one side of the suspension, that will bring the bar into play.
Start by getting the car up in the air, and then disconnect the end-link from the bar on one side (dosen't matter which), then get the car back on the ground. ANY time you're doing suspension adjustments and you jack up the car, for ANY reason, you need to "settle" the suspension, so roll the car forward a couple of feet, and then back. Now, take your ride-height measurements. There are a variety of ways of doing this; measure from the ground to the end of the K-member, or from the hub centerline to the fender, or from the fender to the ground. If your primary focus is suspension geometry, use the K-member. If it's aesthetics, then the fender, unless you know, for a fact, that the fenders are exactly even. FWIW, until I wrecked mine last time, there was a 3/32" variation in my fender-ground height from side to side relative to the chassis. Whatever method you use, make sure it's repeatable. Lift the car, adjust the coil-overs to get your desired ride-height, drop the car, settle it, then measure to verify. When you're done with the ride-height stuff, re-attach the end link that you disconnected earlier, and then null it out if it's adjustable. To null it out, loosen both jamb nuts completely, drop the car, settle, then spin the adjuster by hand (reaching around the tire) until you find the point of least resistance. It'll start out feeling tight, then get looser and looser, then start getting tight again. Spin it back and forth to find that null point. Lightly snug the adjusters, then lift the car, tighten them, drop and settle, then verify you can rotate the endlink slightly by hand with relative ease. Done.
With that accomplished, at static ride-height the sta-bar is putting no force into the suspension.
As Norm mentioned, best practice is to do this with the car on a set of scales, and once the raw ride height is established, make tweaks to get the cross-weights (LF+RR vs. RF+LR) as close to even as you can get them. THEN null out the front AND rear bars.
IF you had such a massive variation side-to-side with your coilover seat heights, then either you had the bar in play (likely) or something is bent. Once you adjust the ride heights, the bar may or may not "just slip in" with both front wheels hanging in the air, or it may take just a little bit of lift on one side to get the stud through the bar. Don't worry over-much at that point. It's when the car is sitting on the ground (and settled!) that counts.