Went with standard clutches. Tousley Ford -
Ok, now I'm keeping the shipping companies in business with wasted shipping charges...

jk
At least thanks to some excellent input, I'll be getting things about as right as I can as trac-lok's go. I've decided to return the carbon kits.
I called Steve at Tousley Ford to check stock on several things. I had bought all the cam chain guides and arms from them back when I did the TSS pump upgrade and they saved me a bunch of money on those and shipped fast.
Steve was super as usual today and gave me the usual 'stang forums discount.
Notes: The thinnest clutch shims he saw listed were .025"; he had 4 in stock for cheap so I ordered them. Unknown if I'll need them, but for a little over a buck each, I want them on hand in case either stack is too tall. I further reason that when I run a shim on the gear as Kevin suggested, this should be thinner than any of the stock shims making the top splines more likely to be engaged? Guesswork but I live in the middle of nowhere, so I can't just pop in to the dealer.
Next, he says that S spring PN IS a truck number but he claims it is the identical part to what is in the 2005 and later 'stang or any 31 spline app. No criticism intended on this; I would not know if his assertion on this is correct or not. Still, I've heard of S springs being cracked or worn or just fatigued over time, it was cheap, so I ordered the one he had in stock.
He had one 4700-b kit in stock, so I ordered it. Had there been 2 in stock, I might have ordered 2 so I'd have all brand new frictions. But what the hell.
Another cool thing: For the regular shipping most charge, I was able to get the parts sent 2nd day. Steve says they will easily get it shipped today.
So I'm still on for bathing in gear oil this weekend.
I don't usually do plugs, but I continue to be impressed with Tousley.
Micke